Here is a message from me to all grieving mamas this Christmas – do what you need.
Before this year I’ve been proud of my strong mentality, I was a fighter as a kid and wouldn’t let the small things bother me. I used my strength in words and could ‘move mountains’ if I needed to – I always considered myself strong and I was proud.
I then lost my daughter at 38 weeks pregnant, she was stillborn, and I learned what strength really was to me. Strength is having to live through something you’d rather not live through, but had no choice in the matter. And when this happens – you absolutely change as a person.
So for me, I don’t want to be strong. I wish that I didn’t have to be, and that I didn’t have to lose my daughter for me to know what strength really means. This applies to so many different situations in life, and I see strength in a whole new way in so many situations.
My message to you is to not pressure yourself to ‘be strong’ and ‘power through’ these hard days. You’re already strong. Do you. Do what you need. And if what you need is a warm cup of cocoa, fuzzy blankets and crazy hair all day – do that. If what you need is a drive through the country, frozen pizza and a hot bath – do that.
Just because you’re a strong person, that doesn’t mean you need to live up to what the world thinks you can handle.
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